Re Opening the doors to success

10 years have passed since I graduated high school Valedictorian of my senior class. Today right now as we speak I'm sitting in the lobby of Georgia Perimeter College. A two year institution. Known as GPC ~Two years that will change your life~.

I'm not going to go into what I should have done differently, or how many times I entered the doors of education and walked right back out the door. Because in my eyes all that matters today is where I'm sitting right now! Insha Allah (If Allah wills) my visions will become realities through this defining moment in my life.

I strongly urge you who ever you are reading this to seek out your talent when it first comes to you, if you haven't already done so. Reach for it as soon as you know that its your IT. Time is given to us, we can't replace it, we can't slow it down and we can't go back. Yesterday I heard someone say, "Every child that is born speaks every language that is present in this world. We can't understand them but Allah (god) has given us multiple talents but we must seek within, find them, nurture them and project them with the intellect he has blessed us all with". Now whether or not you want to agree or disagree with the statement. It makes clear sense. A child's mind can adapt to anything presented before them.

As a mother I am eager to learn as much as I can to assist my children in learning as much as they can. I am there first teacher, they will most likely do what I do and not what I say. My success is their success. It is my duty as a mother to provide them with knowledge, to inspire them to reach beyond their arms length, to be an active supporter in their lives!

Success is truly determined by the beholder. Allah (God) has created us different. He has given us talents that are opposite but if placed together inventions are formed, ideas expanded beyond they eye can see. Which of the favors of your lord could you deny? Therefore we hold positions around the world that are dissimilar, these qualities from all us as individuals reflect the beauty of Allahs (God) creations. My point is no one can tell you what your SUCCESS is, because your dreams are what make you unalike others. Your visions separate you from mirroring everyone else.

My success is already written for me if it's what Allah (God) has planned for me. Its in my best entrance to seek it out, embrace it, and mold it! The signs are always there! As my friend says "pay attention to the little signs before a big sign appears with such devastation it may be too late to change it".

So at 27 years old reentering college, yes I am a bit nervous but not doubtful. As an avid reader and knowledge seeker I'm still afloat! :) So Bismillah (In the name if Allah) here I go world!

Self reflection

For the past two weeks I feel as though I've been tested with "ACCOUNTABILITY". This word that people pass around like cheezits, eating it up and never despensing them back out. Ugh, I've had it with people pointing the finger and refusing to look at them selves for change.

Wether its at home, at work, with your friends, husband, wife, children, you can't get around it. Responsibility will always present itself in some shape or form.
Now even though its there in your face doesn't mean you'll accept it, it doesn't mean you'll take ownership, it does'nt mean you will be the mature individual that you should be.

You an I know some people who constantly complain, they always have a issue, but why is it these same people can never EVER own up to thier mistakes? Why are they so hard on others and its so easy for them to redirect the arrow in another direction?
Becuase these types do not reflect on them selves. They don't seek out the root of the problem. the easiest route is to blame someone else.

Playing the blame game will never lead you to peace. If you go through life blaming eveyone else for YOUR problems CLOSURE is what you will never find. Responsibilty, Accountabilty, Blaming others all intersect with one another.

Some of us need to walk around surrounded by mirrors all day. Why? Becus if you could actually see what your doing then maybe jusy maybe you'll face whats in front of you. How easily you see the faults of others but sadly you are blind to any facts about yourself.

I refuse to be responsible for something I hvan't done. I refuse to give you a easy way out. Externally you appear to be content but internally you are undefined and your self image is distorted. Lets deal with the facts here, if you don't acknowledge it you can't change it.

Reflection is vital to development. If we all though on this level so much drama would be iliminated. But hey were not perfect, and alot of us just dont care. Sad!!!!
We are all subjected to failure if we lack insight and accountability...

Fragile Moments

As Salamu Alaikum

Today my 12 year old daughter Lamiah an I had a very powerful conversation. I must admit I have been truly blessed with an intelligent young lady. Alhumduliah! She's entering a essay contest and the topic is about violence.


We began discussing the basics of writing a effective essay but the conversation quickly did a turn. As a mother I have instincts that instantly arise when I feel something is wrong, which I'm sure all parents have or atleast they should have anyway.
For a second she was feeling incapable of writing a winning essay. She was doubting herself, she was doubting her skills, she doubted the capabilities that she already owns. A fragile moment between mother and daughter.

Before I go on just a quick review of Lamiahs progress in school. She's a strait A student, chosen as a Shining Star among her classmates, has been tested for Gifted children ( currently waiting for the results). Alhumduliah she is blessed with exceptional intelligence.

But at this moment her confidence dropped down. She was afraid of her own strength, she needed to be reassured. As parents this is our duty. Its our job to promote the CAN DO ATTITUDE! I began explaining. Baby girl this is the beginging of a life time of tests that will effect you throughout your life. You must stay positive, you must at all times pray and ask ALLAH (GOD) to guide you through the ruff patches. I explained to her the importance of being greatful and humble when things in life are going well and to be patient and rely on GOD when times are ruff. With every diffulculty there is ease.
At this moment I observed my once baby girl growing into her own. Making new strides in life. "My dear Lamiah
There will be moments when you will want to give up, when you feel that you can't move forward, but I told her that not trying and giving up is the only failure.
At this fragile moment as a mother and daughter we became one on the same accord. I felt her pains, I understood the fear that she was holding on to. But I can't live her life for her.

I see so much of myself in her but 100 times better. I admire her tenacity and determination to succeed. Her williness to seek out help and allow others to assist her when she has come to a crossroad.

I explained to her the importance of learning from your mistakes, being mindful of the company you keep and to never neglect her prayers because if she neglects GOD he will neglect her. By the end of our conversation her belief was restored. Her confidence was renergized and she was prepared to write her essay.
I know that these are the moments that she will reflect on when she is older. These are the fragile moments that develop our chldren into confident teens and progressive adults.

As I sit here typing she's a few feet ahead of me writing her essay. Excited, confident and determined to go beyond the limits. I will keep you posted on the essay contest.

Mr. Right~~~~~~~

In a perfect world, better yet my favorite movie "Pride and Prejudice" Mr. Darcey falls madly in love with Elizabeth Bennett. From first sight of each other their bond of love began. Of course they don't realize this until time passes and they both find themselves irresistibly in love. Jane Austin has created the perfect love story of all time.

If you've never seen it you must check it out.

Jane focuses on the small intricate moments that develop the bond of love between two people. Attracted to each others differences, alike qualities and similar personalities they are drawn together by unbreakable roots of true love. Mr. Darcy is overwhelmed by Elizabeth's fierce attitude, her headstrong opinions and her sweet simplicity. Captivated by her assertive ways, her confident dialogue. She challenges him to be forthcoming with her in every aspect.

I often question myself if I'm wrong for expecting to find a love as strong as theirs. Am I living in a delusional atmosphere? Am I waiting for a Prince that will never show? Or better yet am I expecting a fairytale?

I believe in true love, I believe in love at first sight. I believe Allah (god) has designed a unique person for us all individuality. I believe Mr. Right is out there, and when the time is right we shall meet.

Even though prince charming is known to be a fairy tale belief we all have our prince charming when we meet our soul mates, husbands/wives. Fairy tales are real, they are actually apart of our very own reality.

Mr. RIGHT is Mr. Right for you! He defines what you prayed for. Through God you found each other. Together you both defy the odds and tread the waters side by side. Conquering your battles together. Love is the greatest creation of God. It unifies us all, whether its pertaining to mates, family or friends.

What are we without love, who would we be? We would surely be lost souls with no compassion for our brothers and sisters.

One of my best friends says I need to come out of the fantasy world and get back to reality. But what is the fantasy? Is it a fantasy that I patiently wait on what God has in store for me. Is that not a reality? I'm not waiting on perfection, I'm waiting on My Mr. RIGHT!

Take Confident strides

When I discover who I am, I'll be fine~Ralph Ellison

Can you recall in elementary school being told by the teacher " Walk strait, stand up strait, hold your head up, stop looking down". Lol I remember this. Confidence is the key for any success. Your body language reflects how you feel, what your feeling and your viewers can determine whatever they like by simply following your strides.

If you don't believe in yourself who else will believe in you? Yes I know you've heard this many times before, but its a proven fact. A fact that if not applied correctly you will become the loser and miss the oppurtunity to winn.

Its very common today to see many people with low self esteem or no self esteem at all. Confidence has to be planted like a seed when you're a small child developing. It needs to be nurtured and cared for, so it grows healthy an in tact.

Many of us wait until its to late to instill this into our children. Lessoning thier oppurtunities in life to be a go getter, to be successor. To dream and dream big.

My highschool teacher would constantly say to me" Walk with your head at all times, never give anyone the impression that you lack the ability to do anything." She explained to me the importance of body language and confidence. She alway remined to walk as if Im on the runway and I'm modeling the best of the best.

If you don't possess the confidence that you need it's okay. Rebuild your foundation. Its never to late to begin again. Start from the bottom and graduate to the top. Surround yourself around company that will challenge you and reward you when you excell. Postive energy breeds great confidence. And the negative is self esplanatory.

No matter what anyone attempts to make you believe, BELIEVE THAT YOU deserve the best.