Fragile Moments

As Salamu Alaikum

Today my 12 year old daughter Lamiah an I had a very powerful conversation. I must admit I have been truly blessed with an intelligent young lady. Alhumduliah! She's entering a essay contest and the topic is about violence.


We began discussing the basics of writing a effective essay but the conversation quickly did a turn. As a mother I have instincts that instantly arise when I feel something is wrong, which I'm sure all parents have or atleast they should have anyway.
For a second she was feeling incapable of writing a winning essay. She was doubting herself, she was doubting her skills, she doubted the capabilities that she already owns. A fragile moment between mother and daughter.

Before I go on just a quick review of Lamiahs progress in school. She's a strait A student, chosen as a Shining Star among her classmates, has been tested for Gifted children ( currently waiting for the results). Alhumduliah she is blessed with exceptional intelligence.

But at this moment her confidence dropped down. She was afraid of her own strength, she needed to be reassured. As parents this is our duty. Its our job to promote the CAN DO ATTITUDE! I began explaining. Baby girl this is the beginging of a life time of tests that will effect you throughout your life. You must stay positive, you must at all times pray and ask ALLAH (GOD) to guide you through the ruff patches. I explained to her the importance of being greatful and humble when things in life are going well and to be patient and rely on GOD when times are ruff. With every diffulculty there is ease.
At this moment I observed my once baby girl growing into her own. Making new strides in life. "My dear Lamiah
There will be moments when you will want to give up, when you feel that you can't move forward, but I told her that not trying and giving up is the only failure.
At this fragile moment as a mother and daughter we became one on the same accord. I felt her pains, I understood the fear that she was holding on to. But I can't live her life for her.

I see so much of myself in her but 100 times better. I admire her tenacity and determination to succeed. Her williness to seek out help and allow others to assist her when she has come to a crossroad.

I explained to her the importance of learning from your mistakes, being mindful of the company you keep and to never neglect her prayers because if she neglects GOD he will neglect her. By the end of our conversation her belief was restored. Her confidence was renergized and she was prepared to write her essay.
I know that these are the moments that she will reflect on when she is older. These are the fragile moments that develop our chldren into confident teens and progressive adults.

As I sit here typing she's a few feet ahead of me writing her essay. Excited, confident and determined to go beyond the limits. I will keep you posted on the essay contest.

Mr. Right~~~~~~~

In a perfect world, better yet my favorite movie "Pride and Prejudice" Mr. Darcey falls madly in love with Elizabeth Bennett. From first sight of each other their bond of love began. Of course they don't realize this until time passes and they both find themselves irresistibly in love. Jane Austin has created the perfect love story of all time.

If you've never seen it you must check it out.

Jane focuses on the small intricate moments that develop the bond of love between two people. Attracted to each others differences, alike qualities and similar personalities they are drawn together by unbreakable roots of true love. Mr. Darcy is overwhelmed by Elizabeth's fierce attitude, her headstrong opinions and her sweet simplicity. Captivated by her assertive ways, her confident dialogue. She challenges him to be forthcoming with her in every aspect.

I often question myself if I'm wrong for expecting to find a love as strong as theirs. Am I living in a delusional atmosphere? Am I waiting for a Prince that will never show? Or better yet am I expecting a fairytale?

I believe in true love, I believe in love at first sight. I believe Allah (god) has designed a unique person for us all individuality. I believe Mr. Right is out there, and when the time is right we shall meet.

Even though prince charming is known to be a fairy tale belief we all have our prince charming when we meet our soul mates, husbands/wives. Fairy tales are real, they are actually apart of our very own reality.

Mr. RIGHT is Mr. Right for you! He defines what you prayed for. Through God you found each other. Together you both defy the odds and tread the waters side by side. Conquering your battles together. Love is the greatest creation of God. It unifies us all, whether its pertaining to mates, family or friends.

What are we without love, who would we be? We would surely be lost souls with no compassion for our brothers and sisters.

One of my best friends says I need to come out of the fantasy world and get back to reality. But what is the fantasy? Is it a fantasy that I patiently wait on what God has in store for me. Is that not a reality? I'm not waiting on perfection, I'm waiting on My Mr. RIGHT!